30 Secrets for a Happy Marriage After Kids

Maintaining a healthy and loving relationship is hard, add children to the mix and you have a cocktail for disaster if it is not nurtured correctly.  My husband and I jumped into the fast lane from the beginning of our relationship. Just a few months after we were married we were welcoming our first child, then a year later our second. We are 3 years into our marriage and have two wonderful children and one on the way to show for it.

Marriage is no easy thing! You can’t just read some articles on the Internet and think those easy tips will fix everything. Marriage requires effort, time, and love.  Let me be the first to admit that a marriage with children can be exhausting. Your attention is pulled in every direction. You want to be a good spouse while being an awesome parent. 

I am no marriage pro but I have to say my husband and I must be doing something right. Three years and we are happier now then we were then. Here are our guidelines that work wonders for our relationship:

1. Wake up by saying Good Morning with a Kiss
2. Always kiss Goodbye
3. Communicate throughout the day
4. Send loving Text messages just because
5. Take the time to share about your day
6. Say I Love You at least 5 times a day
7. Cook dinner together
8. Always eat together at the table
9. Have you time
10. Have your couple time away from the kids.
11. Set time aside during each day to spend as a family. For use we go on nightly golf cart rides and look at the nature that surrounds us. This is relaxing and the kids love it!
12. Give random gifts of love just because
13. Find television shows that you watch together weekly
14. Assign tasks around the house
15. Never go to bed angry
16. Take time to calm down when your angry before talking it out
17. Try not to use hurtful words
18. When your wife says she is “fine” she really isn’t
19. Set a time during the night to put all electronics including phones away
20. Pray with and for each other
21. Cook breakfast as a family at least once a month
22. Read books to your kids before bed nightly
23. Always laugh
24. Always smile
25. Always love
26. Say please and thank you
27. Don’t let an argument go by without saying sorry
28. Have family date nights weekly
29. Take interest in your spouses interests
30. Try and go to bed at the same time as your spouse

How do you keep your marriage happy and fresh with kids? I would love to hear what you guys have to say!!